10 toxic beliefs that can destroy even a stable relationship
What are they and why should we beware of them?
1. He will take care of me financially
Your partner can take care of you up to a certain point, but remember that no one is obligated to take care of you since you are an adult. If he is your only source of income or your main source of income, think about what this dependence might one day lead to.
2. These are just a few bad habits
When we’re in love, we tend to overlook certain red flags that can clue us in to serious flaws in the other person that can affect our security, but also that of our relationship.
3. I can change him or he will be different with me
We often hope that we can make people behave differently or that they will somehow be nicer to us than they have been in previous relationships. This kind of thinking only leads us to disappointment. We must remember that people will continue to be the way they are until they decide to change.
4. The child will make him serious and will make him committed
The truth is that having children cannot make a reluctant partner commit. It is an added responsibility that can further strain the relationship.
5. The initiative must come from him
Sometimes it is good to let go of our pride and take the first step. After all, the interest must be mutual, and good communication is a must, because one will not guess what the other wants, and so he can be left with the waiting and the initiative.
6. I don’t need to change, I am fine the way I am
Although no one is perfect, everyone is looking for something specific from the relationship and the partner. If you are more selfish, if you don’t make the effort to develop, to improve some of your traits, if you take the other for granted, then sooner or later your relationship will start to suffer.
7. If I complain, I will get what I want
When we don’t feel good in our relationship for any reason, it is important to communicate with our partner and share our fears and desires. This way, many things in the relationship can be corrected. On the other hand, constant complaining, nagging and whining can do great damage to a love relationship.
8. The past will not hinder my present relationship
The past will largely become your present and future. That’s why it’s important to let things end. From past relationships we usually carry over into our next ones negative emotions, comparisons to previous partners, even emotions we still feel for our exes.
9. This will never happen to me
Extremely harmful belief. A number of situations can arise in love and relationships – breakups, infidelity, loss of interest, arguments, cheating, etc.
10. He is sure of me, so I will not give much of myself
Thinking that someone is secure in you romantically just because they are caring, proactive and make an effort is a very wrong and toxic belief. So until you put effort into your relationship, this someone is just seeing the signs that you are not the right match for him.
