It doesn’t matter how long you have known your partner, or how long you have been in a relationship. We all have doubts at some point in our relationships because it is perfectly normal to have ups and downs. Being in a relationship means you will have different opportunities that will help you evaluate how prosperous it will be. These are 12 things that can help you find out whether your relationship will last long.
1. Your partner likes your friends (and your friends like your partner)
If your partner likes your friends, this is a fantastic sign. Number one, it’s pretty difficult to make a relationship last if your friends aren’t too fond of your partner. And secondly, if your friends like them back, that’s a great indication that your partner gives off good, genuine vibes and that they fit in well with the people you already know and love — which is what you want, right?
2. You are both equals
In a relationship, both partners should be equal and they should never abuse or manipulate each other. It is important to have mutual respect as well as have the same level of emotional dependence.
3. You partner respects your space
This is a big one. I know it seems a little trivial at first, but we all need space sometimes. Everyone’s version of “space” looks different — maybe some alone time at the end of each day, a solitary sunset walk on the weekends, a night out with friends at the bar when the weather’s warm, or some quiet time to read before bed. Whatever your version of “space” looks like, it’s important that they happily respect it. Romantic relationships are wonderful, but the relationship one has with themselves is essential to maintain, too, and being able to have space and alone time is a part of that. By giving you the opportunity to have it, your partner is showing that they care about you and that they are not being possessive of your time or energy.
4. You discuss your future together
When you talk about your future, you think about your partner. And when they talk about it, they make sure to include you in their future plans. You can always rely on your partner when it comes to achieving your goals and dreams and they can always count on your support.
5. You have similar values and beliefs
Sharing the same hobbies is not the base of a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Instead, it is more important to have similar values and beliefs because your compatibility can tell whether your relationship is doomed to fail or not.
6. You know about each other’s past — and you accept it
So many relationships end because one partner still hasn’t settled with the other partner’s past.There are so many so-called “dealbreakers” and incidents that couples originally think they can get through, but in the long run, it ends up eating away at them. But this is just the opposite. If both you and your partner have been transparent to each other about your pasts and have been able to accept each other’s past for what it is (even if it initially took a little adjustment and thinking) you’re doing great. This is a sign that you love them for who they are, not who you want them to be — and they feel the same.
7. You have healthy and constructive arguments
Having arguments is normal in every relationship, and their quality determines the strength and longevity of you two as a couple. If you both are able to have mature and constructive arguments which can lead to a solution that will fit both of you, you definitely are on a great path to have a long-lasting relationship.
8. You love each other the way you want to be loved
Do you know each other’s love language? OK, maybe you haven’t discussed love languages or you think the concept is dumb, but do you communicate each other’s likes and dislikes? Do you know the actions that make your partner feel loved, and do their actions make you feel loved? It seems obvious, but loving each other is arguably the biggest indicator of compatibility and longevity in relationships. Everyone wants and deserves to be loved. If you both feel loved by the things you do for each other, then you’re set. Even on the rough days, the love you feel — and show — for each other will remind you why you’re together, and it will power you through time.
9. You think about your partner even if they are not around
If you think about each other even when you are not together, it is a clear sign that your heart belongs to them whether they are physically present or not.
10. You have similar values and beliefs
Sharing the same hobbies is not the base of a healthy and long-lasting relationship. Instead, it is more important to have similar values and beliefs because your compatibility can tell whether your relationship is doomed to fail or not.
11. You are both independent individuals
Sharing a big part of your life with your partner is important, but you should also make sure to have your own free time. You are two people who should have separate hobbies or interests that you don’t always have to do with your partner.
12. Your relationship is a priority for both of you
You and your partner are willing to compromise often for the sake of the relationship. These compromises don’t feel like a bad thing because you are happy to make your partner happy, knowing that it will reflect positively on your relationship. So, instead of putting your partner aside, you always make your relationship a priority which is one of the clearest signs it is going to be long-lasting.
Sources: goodmenproject.com, usefulgen.com
