You might want your man to pay more attention to you, to stop taking you for granted, or to finally commit to you. So you decide that making him worry about losing you is the best option. There are ways you can do this. But be careful when it comes to getting his attention in these ways.
1. Glamorize your looks
When in a relationship, it’s common for people to get so comfortable that they let their appearance fade. If this resonates with you it’s time to start glamourizing the way that you look when you’re with him and when you’re not with him. So, dress well and look your best he’s going to notice when other men are paying more attention to you. That’s going to remind him that other men find you attractive.
It’s so important for you to look better for you to look different and he’s going to question if it’s because you want to be attractive to other men. Also, this is going to provoke just a little bit of fear that someone else could hijack you.
2. Be confident, busy and interesting
Keep doing whatever it was you were doing that attracted him to you in the first place. You had a life, friends, hobbies, and interests before he came along. Those attributes made you who you are today, and they made you a catch in his eyes.
Don’t make the mistake of giving up your unique self to be with him and him alone or to fit in with his life to the point of losing yours. If your guy is confident, he’ll want a partner who is also confident and living life to the fullest.
3. Spend time with your friends
It’s important to keep your friends when you get with a guy. And if you want to make him worry about losing you, if you have guy friends you can spend time with — even better. Spending time with others makes you more desirable and interesting to him. It shows that other people like to be around you, which should make him desire to be around you more as well.
Of course, if it’s a guy you’re hanging with, you have the added benefit of making him jealous. This could bring out his competitive and manly nature. He’ll want to show you how much better he would be to hang out with than this other guy.
4. Be distant
Make him try hard to please you. Being distant is another way not to appear too eager. His natural reaction will probably be to try to win you back. He’ll start being more attentive or thinking of some great dates to take you on. When you back away, it could cause him to move toward you.
Note that if you act distant, he might think that it’s because you want a break from him. In that case, he might mirror your behavior and start acting distant as well.
5. Talk about the future without him
As you talk about any future events, make it seem like it’s not a given that he’s part of the plans. This doesn’t necessarily have to mean talking about your long-term life plans. It could be as simple as talking about a road trip or weekend plans without him being involved. All you need to do is say “I” instead of “we.” It’s a subtle change, but the majority of guys should be smart enough to pick up on it. He’ll notice it, trust me.
6. Reduce texting
Most of ladies are always texting. However, constant texting puts all of your cards on the table and shows your interest and commitment. If you cut back on your messaging and aren’t always the first to reach out, he’ll start to wonder why. It could force him to take more of a lead in the relationship. It could also make him think that you have more important things to do than talk to him.
7. Flirt with other men
This is dangerous territory because you could lose your man if you overdo it but as long as you know the line and don’t cross it, flirting with others will make him jealous.
Don’t go overboard but if you simply check out some handsome guy and give him a smile, it can be very effective.
Flirting with someone else will do much more than make your man jealous. He’ll realize that you can take your pick of the guys and yet you chose him, so he needs to choose you.
Another handsome man is like a threat to your man, especially if he flirts back.
Maybe you don’t even have to look for such a man. As long as he sees someone else hitting on you, he’ll realize that you could leave him.
He needs to know that he doesn’t own you and that you can be with someone else, maybe even someone who’d treat you better than he does.
Don’t keep flirting with other men if you’re in a serious relationship. Just once will be enough for him to get the message and be afraid of losing you.
References: theprincessfantasy.com, bolde.com
