When you start seeing the signs of ɪɴғɪᴅᴇʟɪᴛʏ in your relationship, you need to know what to do if you suspect ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ.
Maybe you’ve noticed the common first signs of ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ in a relationship, such as a sudden change in his schedule or increased secretiveness with his phone.
It’s important to tread lightly because it might not necessarily be the case that he’s actually ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ, so you don’t want to accuse him before having all of the facts.
At this point, you have a few options, but the most pressing thing that you need to do is to find out if your suspicions are correct.
Here’s what to do when you suspect your boyfriend is ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ.
1. ASK HIM!
If you’re so worried that he’s ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ, why not just ask him? It’s probably the least stressful option. Even if he says no, you might see that how he’s handling the conversation is pretty shady. Confronting him if you suspect him of ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ is also a must if you’re the type of person who’d want to work on the relationship after an ᴀғғᴀɪʀ.
2. KEEP YOUR EYES GLUED FOR SIGNS.
Pay more attention to things he does as this could point to ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ. For instance, if he’s suddenly guarding his phone with his life even though he never used to or if he’s changed drastically in the last few weeks, altering his appearance, fashion choices, and even opinions. Don’t look for just one sign—if he’s ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ, there’ll be many!
3. RELY ON YOUR GUT.
Your relationship might be in a great place but you just can’t shake the feeling that your boyfriend’s up to something! Listen to the feeling, especially if you can’t seem to ignore it. It’s there for a reason.
4. SHOW HIM THE EVIDENCE.
If you do choose to confront your boyfriend, show him real evidence you have from checking his behavior or things he’s said which confirm your suspicions. This will help to show him you’re not being paranoid and it’s easier than snooping, which just makes you feel like a horrible person.
5. LOOK AFTER YOURSELF.
It’s easy to let the stress of your boyfriend’s cheating get to you and harm your health. You might end up losing sleep, not eating correctly, worrying obsessively, and so on. It’s not worth it! You should also look after yourself when it comes to the relationship. If you suspect your boyfriend of cheating, don’t have s.e.x with him so that you prevent ⓈⓉⒾⓢ until you know for sure that he’s committed. It’s better to pause the relationship in some way rather than hurt yourself either emotionally or physically.
6. FIGURE OUT YOUR FEELINGS.
Before you go off on a tangent, think about why you feel suspicious of your boyfriend. Is he doing something shady that makes you worry he’s ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ or are you coming from a place of insecurity and jealousy issues? Work through your thoughts before you jump to conclusions.
7. TEST HIM.
If you don’t feel ready to confront your boyfriend, test him to see how committed he is to your relationship. Invite him to a future holiday or suggest going out with him and his mates when he tells you that’s where he’s going. If he seems anxious or put out by the suggestions, he could be hiding something.
8. SET BOUNDARIES.
You need to guard your emotions. If you think your boyfriend’s ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ on you, stop being so readily available to him. A bit of emotional distance is a must to look after yourself and gain some perspective on the situation.
9. AVOID THE OTHER WOMAN.
If you have an idea of who the other woman could be, resist the temptation to reach out to her and put her in her place. This will just make you seem crazy. Besides, your boyfriend’s the one who promised to be loyal to you. He’s the one you should be angry AF with.
10. TAKE A RELATIONSHIP TIMEOUT.
If you’re not sure what to make of the situation or even relationship as a whole, tell your boyfriend you need some time away from him. Perhaps you could go on a solo trip somewhere for a week or two. This really helps you to see the relationship from a distance, and if it’s worth fighting for.
11. TALK TO SOMEONE.
Chat to a trusted friend about what’s happening. It really helps to get an objective opinion from someone who knows you well and has your best interests at heart but who isn’t shy to tell you what they really think.
12. DUMP HIM.
If you don’t want to stay with a guy who’s ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛᴇᴅ on you, or who you just don’t trust even if he’s not ᴄʜᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ, you could just break up with him. If your feeling is strong enough and you know you’re not jumping to conclusions or making rash decisions, why stay?
Sources: yourtango.com, bolde.com
