There has always been debate about building attraction when it comes to the dating world. One of the most common topics people discuss is which makes a bigger difference when it comes to looks versus personality. It’s fairly obvious to assume that people who are conventionally physically attractive have an advantage when it comes to dating. These men and women not only have visual signs of good health and hygiene (clear skin, facial symmetry, etc.), but these attractive people also benefit from the halo effect. Because they’re good looking, they’re also seen as being more trustworthy, kinder and smarter – all very attractive traits to have. And by virtue of being more attractive, they tend to have more attractive girlfriends and wives. After all, people tend to date other people at their level of attractiveness, right? Well, according to science that isn’t exactly true. Here are some reasons why personality always wins over looks
1. You don’t sit in hours of silence after s-e-x; you forget to have s-e-x because you were up talking till 3 AM.
When you have a personal connection with someone, you never run out of things to talk about. A deep mental connection forces you to challenge your significant other, to lift up their spirits, support them, and introduce them to new ideas. Oh, and let’s not forget the most important one – to laugh with them. Sometimes you laugh so hard, that you even forget that you knew how to talk at all. You could basically blindfold yourself and still want to spend all your days around that person.
2. You don’t just look good together, you radiate happiness together.
You’re not the couple sitting in a restaurant in silence staring at their phones. You’re the couple who’s wrapped up in their own world, staring at each other and knowing exactly what the other is saying without even saying it. Together, you inspire people.
3. Your attraction doesn’t fade over time; your attraction only grows in bolder ways.
Remember the time you spotted that hottie across the bar, only to find that you had nothing to say to each other? Yeah, not so hot anymore… But when you click on a psychological and spiritual level, you somehow see that person in a whole new way. And the more you talk and spend time together, the more they just seem to get increasingly hotter.
4. You share more than a bed; you share your visions in life.
When it’s just looks, you’re only turned on in the bedroom. When it’s personality, you’re turned on pretty much at all times. Your foreplay begins even before you touch: the riveting conversation when you’re out together, the way you share your hopes, dreams, fears, goals, and what you value in a relationship – no hot and toned body will ever light the sparks in your brain like that.
5. You don’t struggle to understand them; you share a brain with them.
You’re not trying to decode their text messages because you know exactly how they’d utter every single word. Sometimes it freaks you out because it’s like you can actually hear their voice. And most of the time, you’re accurately predicting what their responses will be, anyway.
6. You don’t just think they’re perfect, you think they’re perfect for you.
True love doesn’t equate to obsessing, idolizing, and idealizing someone. True love equates to seeing that person for who they are – flaws and everything. But it’s the combination of flaws and perfections that complement yours and make them – well – perfect for you.
Sources: amazinglovequotes.org, puckermob.com
