A woman confronting a low point in her 5-year relationship felt so lost that she turned to the internet for help. After a heated dispute with her fiancé over money, the woman questioned whether she was wrong for standing firm against the guy she loves.
She wrote:
“I (32F) got engaged to my partner (35M) only a year ago. We’ve been together for five years and want to marry in May 2024.
My nanna díєd just a few weeks after we got engaged. My grandmother and grandfather worked really hard their entire lives, were highly accomplished, well-educated, and had very high-paying careers.
They were quite restricted in their spending while they were younger, so they spent a lot of money in their latter years. It’s worth adding that my grandfather is a very bright man who is extremely good with money and investments, so when I say he has a lot, I really mean it.
My grandmother left a very significant quantity of money in her will for myself, my brother, and my three cousins to receive.
Even after the money was divided, there were still thousands in each of our names. I will not reveal the precise amount.
When I told my fiancé about the news, he was ecstatic, much more than I expected.
I went along with it and shrugged it off until later in the day, when I heard him on the game with his friends saying, “I can pay off my credit card with that money, mate!” We can finally have the boys’ vacation we’ve been planning, ay?” and laughing.
“I entered the room and asked, ‘What money?'” He looked at me funny and said, ‘From your nan, babe.’
I exploded on him and shouted, ‘You won’t be paying anything off without my approval, and there will be no guys’ vacation. It’s not your money to have; it was written to me by MY nanna and is not for you.
We had a shouting argument, and I left the room upset.
He later got off the game and found me in the kitchen, where he reprimanded me again and stated, “We are getting married, and you will become my financial BURDEN.” Any money you take in is mine as well. It was quite selfish of you to make a fool of me in front of my friends and give them false hope of a vacation.
Again, it is worth noting that I did not mention a holiday, and I am not sure where I became a financial burden, given that I have a solid career and do not desire children. I left the house without saying anything and am composing this from a friend’s place right now.
I forgot to explain that this incident really recently happened; my fiancé only found out because I didn’t know if the money was going to me or not due to a number of family and legal difficulties.
